This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: March 9-16

This week, situations like “no running water” and “no internet” at our house afforded excellent opportunities for acting like a huge Ass; here’s what I turned to for help. Mostly art this week! Solvitur creando.  Jenny Holzer’s “Projections“: She projects enormous bright words on buildings, cliffs, water. It was particularly affecting to see the San Diego series. … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: March 9-16

This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: March 2-March 9

Oof… this week. You may well have experienced me being an Ass this week. I love you a lot; sometimes I am such an Ass anyway. Here’s what I turned to, with help from you, to blow up my reality a little. Art 21 (PBS) film on Play in Art: It’s an hour and it’s worth an hour. If … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: March 2-March 9

This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: Feb 23-March 2

Here’s some of what I’ve turned to this week, with your help:* A video about Slomo, a man who spends his days and sometimes nights rollerskating to music on the boardwalks of Pacific Beach. These stretches are where I walk with my family and dearest friends, and have for a sentimentally long time. When I … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: Feb 23-March 2

This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: Feb 16-23

Here’s what I’ve turned to for help this week: An article by Brittney Cooper on what Prince said at the Grammys and why it matters. A taste: Prince’s remarks remind us that it is art, our ability to sit with art and all the possibilities it helps us to imagine, that is so important to our ability to … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: Feb 16-23

This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: Feb 9-16

Here’s what I’ve turned to for help being not such an Ass this week: Claudia Rankine’s “Citizen”  : A book you could read in one sitting, but you can’t, because you have to keep putting it down to breathe, and you have to let each section take root in you before you encounter the next. This is the best … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: Feb 9-16

This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: February 2-9

This week I feel extra aware that while I seek help, and it comes, it’s still not always true that I become incrementally less of an ass as a result. What I can say is: here’s some of what I’ve turned to for help this week…efficacy, TBD. Colorlines’ “Racial Discourse Change in Practice” series, Part 2. I love so much … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: February 2-9

This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: January 26-February 2

Here’s what’s helping me be incrementally less of an ass this week: “saved by the bell hooks” tumblr: just beautiful. –The Radical Brownies!: “…where girls earn badges for completing workshops on social protests, and a beauty workshop that celebrates racial diversity.” Hooray!! –REASONS YOU WERE NOT PROMOTED THAT ARE TOTALLY UNRELATED TO GENDER: may have … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: January 26-February 2

This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: January 19-26

Anne Lamott calls “Help me not be such an ass” the “fourth great prayer” (after “Help,” “Thanks,” and “Wow.”). I think of this as a gentle, loving exhortation, having to do with awareness rather than character; to be Such as Ass is to act out of insufficient understanding (including of myself) in a situation where that understanding … More This Week in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: January 19-26