Help Me Not Be Such an Ass: Dec 14-Jan 9, 2016

  Anne Lamott offers us “three essential prayers” (lovely I think whether you are a pray-er or not): Help, Thanks, and Wow. She also names a bonus fourth: Help Me Not Be Such an Ass. In my experience, keeping this one set to “heartily invoked” is enough to draw nigh much that is brain-breaking and beautiful. Here’s some… 1. … More Help Me Not Be Such an Ass: Dec 14-Jan 9, 2016

Help Me Not Be Such an Ass: November 23-December 14

Hello good people! Heavens, we live in a world, don’t we? It’s all so much. And you are so lovely, to be reading this; I mean that both because it’s really meaningful to me that anyone does so, and also because…well, it includes the premise that you are probably an Ass, because we all are, and further, that … More Help Me Not Be Such an Ass: November 23-December 14

Help Me Not Be Such an Ass: Sept 2-17, 2015

Hello, fellow Asses. This time: exactly 10 things. 1. This article says it is about how white people avoid taking responsibility for racism; I’d say it’s more about the actual thought processes that go into deflecting any feedback connected to racism. And includes a nice pair of “alternatives to that deflection” principles: How, where, and when … More Help Me Not Be Such an Ass: Sept 2-17, 2015

These Weeks in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: April 22-May 6

Here’s what I’ve appreciated as I’ve tried to be less of an Ass* these weeks: Video of DeRay McKesson schooling Wolf Blitzer: This is masterful reframing of narrative, over and over, despite Blitzer’s insistence on framing events through a law-and-order lens (cloaked in concerns about violence). From Salon: “There’s no excuse for that kind of violence, right?” … More These Weeks in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: April 22-May 6

These Weeks in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: April 8-22

While I certainly ask for help being not such an Ass* on a weekly basis, I am going to begin sharing the compiled ass-istance every two weeks. Herewith, (some of) the help which has come to me since April 8: Silt, a poem about mean girls.** (thanks Anne) John Herschend’s short film “Discussion Questions.“ Oh my … More These Weeks in “Help Me Not Be Such an Ass”: April 8-22